Want to know the Heartbreakers that cause 60% of Second Marriages to stumble?
What is the number 1 cause of second marriages and relationships falling apart? Well my research has found that there isn’t one there are seven key ones. If any of these top seven are not attended to, they can wear away at even the relationship that started off as appearing to have been made in heaven. Left unchecked these seven areas will definitely lead to heart break. Something that I suggest everyone wants to avoid, especially if you have been through it all before. So why not
Either couples will separate or they will live in a marriage that just survives at best.
I have called these seven areas the seven heart breakers. They are:
- The influence of children
- Money stressors
- Unbalanced household responsibilities
- Loss of passion and intimacy
- Influence of family and friends
- Unrealistic expectations
- Behavioural and additional issues
If you have one or two heart breakers happening, or your are experiencing recent temporary stresses then your relationship is almost certainly recoverable, especially if you focus on the seven love makers instead. These are:
- Parenting together
- Congruency in financial matters
- Sharing the load
- Safeguarding the romance
- Honouring your partner above all others
- Respecting values, beliefs & goals
- Authentic living
Over the next few weeks, I am going to take each of the makers and breakers of relationships and talk about them in more detail, giving you some hints and tips to try out with your partner.
Author and experienced relationship coach, Gillian Andale is the owner of Love2Last, a coaching and resource centre dedicated to couples who have found love again, want a new beginning and aim to strengthen and grow their relationship as well as need help in blended family situations. Visit www.love2last.co to browse and see the wealth of information available.