Author: Gillian

Engaged Now What? How will you tell your Ex?

Engaged

Your’re engaged now what ? Well first of all Congratulations! However it isn’t quite the same being engaged when you’ve been married before.  There are a lot more people to think about and people to inform (sensitively) before you tell the world. To start with, one of the questions that I get asked frequently  is ‘”Should […]

Singing the Stepmother Blues

By Mary T. Kelly The High Incidence of Depression Among Stepmothers The first thing I wonder is if people would be surprised to know that research shows that stepmothers in general have “significantly greater anxiety and depression than biological mothers”? The second thing I wonder is if the general culture at large even cares, and I suspect […]

Becoming a Step Father – An Insider Perspective

By Alyssa Johnson Step-parenting is hard work. Becoming a step father has challenges all it’s own. Rather than just another boring article, why not hear some comments from real kids I’ve worked with and let’s pretend it’s a diary entry written from a kid discussing her fears and expectations about her prospective step-father. Step Father […]

Women bear twice the domestic load

New data analysis released by the Australian Institute of Family Studies (AIFS) has shown Australian women spend around twice as much time on childcare and household work than men. The AIFS’ fact sheet, Families Working Together – Getting The Balance Right was released to coincide with National Families Week (15-21 May). It reveals mothers with […]

Second Marriage: 4 Common Fears

Successful remarriage – that’s what everyone wants. “I want my second marriage to be my last”. I get asked all the time by members of my online community whether it’s possible to achieve this and how. It makes good sense to be a little hesitant about remarrying. No one rushes to get in line for […]

Love Language

Communicating before and after you say “I do” helps you make the leap to a stronger, happier marriage. You’ve heard the bad news: Almost 50 percent of marriages in the United States end in divorce. But there is good news. Success in marriage, as in the rest of life, has little to do with statistics […]

Step Wise: A Parent-Child Guide to Family Mergers

Step Wise: A Parent-Child Guide to Family Mergers is a no-nonsense guide full of practical tips for step-parents who want to foster healthy relationships with their step-children. Written in 2001 by a stepfather and stepdaughter, the book is based on the wisdom of their shared experience. Step Wise is a layman’s-guide. Divided into 45 insights, […]

How Depression Dominated My Marriage

This is an article from one of our readers, and she has given me permission to publish it….Gillian I’ve struggled with depression on and off since I was a teenager.  Now that I am in my late 30’s, I’ve come to accept that I will struggle with it for the rest of my life.  Along […]

The Big Announcement

The roller coaster of emotions, the excitement and trepidation, oh you can’t believe how lucky you just are… You’re Engaged! Now you are about to announce it to the world.  Apart from asking details about the proposal, and whether you said YES, you need to be ready with the answers to two questions: When do […]

Five Things I Find Attractive in a Spouse

Today I saw a survey by Huffington Post weddings entitled ‘5 things I find attractive in a spouse’. I was intrigued by the 25 responses that were shown, notably 24 from women. No analysis was presented, so I thought I would give you my take on it. Not everyone answered the question or gave 5 […]

How to live an authentic life

By Craig Nathanson. The Vocational Coach Have you ever asked yourself if you are living the life you were meant to live? Have you ever asked yourself, as you pondered your life, is this all there is? These are great questions to ask when you reach forty and beyond. Who Needs an authentic life? If […]

Engaged? Should you tell your Ex?

One of the questions that is frequently raised is ‘Should I tell my former spouse that I have gotten engaged?’. The answer is definitely yes, especially if you have children together. How you tell them will largely depend on how well (or poorly) you get on. It is best to contact them as soon as you have told your […]

The Parent Trap

This is an article from one of our readers, and she has given me permission to publish it….Gillian When I was a little girl one of my very favourite movies was “The Parent Trap”.  Hayley Mills stars as twin girls who meet for the first time at camp and conspire to bring their parents back […]

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